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If he asks you directly, you can respond, “I can tell you honestly that you have never done anything to offend me, and I appreciate my husband’s friendship with you. I know it’s awkward, but this really is one of those, ‘It’s not you, it’s ME’ situations.”

Trees that are consistently well-maintained are less likely to have damaged and weakened limbs that might fall in storms. A professional arborist’s inspection can detect problems such as the dark rot revealed when this tree split. (Beth Botts/Morton Arboretum)

Wet weather encourages nearly all fungal diseases, including stem and leaf blight. Do not mulch an established bed of pachysandra, as mulch holds water against the plant stems, which can promote fungal issues. On the other hand, if you are planting pachysandra in fall, it is important to mulch the bed so the plants can get established. Remove any fallen leaves and debris from the bed of pachysandra this fall and in subsequent years.

Dear Readers: A recent question from a dad (“J”) who felt pressured by his mother to attend family events over his kids’ sporting events prompted a lively response on both sides of a consistent and challenging parenting issue: The pressure sports programs place on players and their parents, who are frequently required to travel to games on weekends and over holidays.

However, neither intends to be vaccinated. Because of their experience, they believe it is no worse than the flu, and both have been sharply critical of the government, particularly with regard to public health measures like mask mandates, which they consider unnecessary and infringements of their personal liberty.

Nursing is an extremely challenging and rewarding career. The schooling is tough, but nurses are in high demand and the pay can be very good. If your daughter is truly motivated to attend nursing school, she will find a way to do that, and you should support her interest and efforts to get there, without necessarily paying the tab.

If your real spouse is uncomfortable with the idea of a work spouse altogether, you should take a step back and reevaluate. In fact, there is some research that shows the majority of employees that have work spouses are admittedly romantically attracted to them. And I will be humble and honest here: If my husband had a work spouse, I would have an issue with it, and I can say for him, on the record, he would feel the same way. Your boundaries become blurred.

Years ago, I had a distant friend call at the very last minute and I offered her a bed for the night. She brought her own sheets and towel, tea, granola, etc., almost as if she were camping. I was impressed that she was so prepared to be such a low-trace guest. (I was extremely happy when she agreed to stay a second night.)