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I’m confused. He says he wants to be in this relationship (we’ve lived together for over a year), but acts poorly, and while I am not perfect and do often yell back (and feel terrible about it), I also believe I am protecting myself, albeit not in the best way.

I have gotten distance from these events, and I’m proud of the person I am today. But at the same time, I experience this incredible cognitive dissonance between these images of myself as a proud, confident, successful woman at the top of her game and this helpless, depressed, insecure woman at rock bottom. I feel disgusted by the second view of myself. Ashamed. Angry!

Oaks (Quercus). Oaks are magnificent, long-living trees that support abundant wildlife. Of the oak species native to the Chicago region, some can tolerate conditions in developed areas such as suburbs and cities better than others. Swamp white oak (Quercus bicolor), a tall, impressive shade tree; chinkapin oak (Quercus muehlenbergii), with glossy green leaves; and the stately, spreading bur oak (Quercus macrocarpa) are all good choices for large yards.

Andrew Smith, left, and other men practice yoga at Y7 Studio North in Chicago on Sept. 10, 2021. The sponsoring organization, The Healing, gives Black men an outlet from the stresses of the pandemic and racial trauma. (Antonio Perez / Chicago Tribune)

The group that provides immigration legal services, educational programming, and arts and cultural events that celebrate Chicago’s Latino and immigrant communities will host its 9th annual event Sept. 14-24 virtually. Artists, activists, Chicago Tribune journalist Laura Rodriguez Presa, and Ambassador Reyna Torres Mendivil, Consul General of Mexico in Chicago, are among the speakers.

14-year-old Olivia Ohlson-Ellis serves lemonade for her customers at her lemonade and cookie stand outside her home on Sept. 12, 2021, in Evanston, Illinois. At the end of her fourth grade year, Olivia’s mom, Virginia Ohlson, was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was caught early through a mammogram, and she had a double mastectomy and chemotherapy in summer 2017 to remove the cancer that had spread to her lymph nodes. That summer, at 10 years old, that Olivia took her aspirations to run a lemonade stand and made them a reality. Olivia, now 14, has raised $9,600 of her $10,000 goal for NorthShore University HealthSystem’s Kellogg Cancer Center to support the place that helped her mom during her breast cancer journey. She’s hoping to reach her goal with a lemonade stand on Sunday in Evanston.

It will self-seed and continue to spread in your garden if you do not control it. Most likely it got into your garden via a bird, as they eat the fruit. American pokeweed will be at home in many gardens, as it grows well in full sun to part-shade and in well-drained soils with average levels of moisture. I have found it growing strongly in sandy dry soils in Evanston.

I assume that subsequent generations of your family have recovered (somewhat) from this displacement and trauma, but for some of your cousins, this story could help them to understand the temperament and behavior of some of their elders, who were not able to nurture them — because, tragically, they weren’t nurtured.

Many of the people Joe Reagan served with in the Army joined after 9/11, or even because of it, said the director of military and veteran outreach at Wreaths Across America, a group that honors military service and sacrifice. For Reagan, when he enlisted in 2005, memories of 9/11 were still fresh. Although it was not the sole reason he joined the military, he said 9/11 impacted him and his decision.

And so, instead of telling your mom to back off, you should sit with her, look into her eyes, and say to her, “Mom, I need you to take two steps back. I’m feeling smothered, and I don’t like it. Your attention is overwhelming, and it is threatening my relationship with you. I feel very stressed and torn.”