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Sandra Abrevaya helps her husband, Brian Wallach, walk at their Kenilworth home on Feb. 13, 2022. Wallach was diagnosed with ALS, or amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, in 2017 at the age of 37 and was told he wouldn’t life past his infant daughter’s first birthday. He’s still here, although the disease progresses every year. (Erin Hooley / Chicago Tribune)
Dear Perplexed: You may deserve an apology – or many apologies – but you seem to have skipped many steps between hearing a gross generalization, disputing it, and expecting an apology. If you are expecting an apology from someone you know doesn’t ever offer them, then you are throwing down the gauntlet, when you might possibly be communicating – even if it is through an argument.
Dear Sympathy: Many deaths can be prevented. The one-car traffic accident, the fall from a ladder, failure to wear a seatbelt or a motorcycle helmet, a misdiagnosis, a suicide, an overdose: Depending on your perspective, these deaths might be preventable.
Across the street from the museum is Bronzeville Collective, where at least two dozen makers, self-described as Black, brown and queer, create and sell merchandise that sometimes carries a message. Buy “Be the Change” candles, “I am More Than Enough” journals, affirmation cards, chakra bracelets, inspirational T-shirts, art prints, herbal soaps, crystals and jewelry. 339 W. North Ave., bronzevillecollective.com
“If I was talking to a couple getting married, the two things I would emphasize is that it’s going to be a banner year for weddings,” said Lauren Kay, The Knot’s executive editor. “We’re ready to help 2.6 million weddings happen this year, which is wild, but so exciting. And with that comes a little bit of understanding, empathy and support for both the people you’re hiring and the challenges they might face. And the ability to pivot or change your plans as needed and know that you’re still going to have an incredible wedding and an amazing memory. That flexibility has been something we’ve seen year over year as a result of COVID and I don’t think that’s going away anywhere yet.”
When we go into these grocery stores and try to get these accounts, they’re not just looking at us as a product. They’re looking at who we are as individuals and then the question lies: Do they do that with anybody else of different backgrounds? When we first started, we were told from a gentleman that was in this industry for over 40 years, that this was the first time his people were sitting down with Black people. To hear those statements, and realize the importance of African American business … our role is to say that all Black men are not dangerous. Just because we’re from Chicago, the South Side, young, Black males, we automatically have this stereotype, or stigma over us, which is not the case.
I do her shopping, medications, appointments, finances, and home repairs. They help out some, but I’ve joked that should I drop dead, they’d all be in trouble. They make no effort to learn how to do these tasks. Why should they? They have me to do them.
After 15 years there, she moved to Chicago in 2019, having visited her former hometown for the Taste of Chicago and feeling drawn to the creative community and the architecture she loves. “That’s kind of where my eye would go,” she said. She loves, for example, the Wrigley Building’s ornate design. “It’s just really beautiful.”
Dear Amy: My fiance and I recently became engaged. He is originally from another country, and his family still lives there. Because of COVID-19 restrictions and the visa process, most are unable to travel to the U.S. for a wedding, so we decided to host (and pay for) a small U.S. ceremony and have a big wedding in his home country (where costs are much lower).
The concept of “borrowed views” has a long history in landscape design, she said. Grand European estates often were arranged to capture expansive vistas from stately homes across fields, hills, woods and villages, far beyond the estate boundaries. Today, subdivisions are built around golf courses for the same reason.