Mutual friends were very suspicious of their relationship but chose not to tell me. Yes, it would have been hard to hear the truth, but having the knowledge of his affair would have saved me from five years of him draining our bank accounts, five years of emotional hell, and five developmental years of my boys’ lives. One son, now 18, told me, “You didn’t want to leave Dad because you thought your boys needed a father, but we didn’t have a father.” Ouch. Telling someone about their spouse’s affair could actually be life-giving. It is not a happy marriage and you are not the one destroying it, the cheating spouse is.
