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Dear Amy: After 36 years, I found out via a DNA test that the father of my daughter was the product of a one-night stand, and that she is not the daughter of the man I married.All those years ago, when I found out I was pregnant I married the man I was dating and in love with. I’ve had no contact with the one-night stand man since the morning after.AdvertisementDo I tell my daughter?I’m mostly concerned about this because she knows that the man I married (her non-DNA dad, who I later divorced) is an alcoholic. His mother and two aunts each died of genetic cancers.AdvertisementIf she learns about her DNA, my daughter will no longer believe she carries those potentially life-ending traits, but I still wonder if she should be told.I certainly don’t want to tell my ex-husband – and won’t.– Mama’s Baby, Daddy’s maybeDear Mama: Yes, you should tell your daughter.If you can’t justify telling her the truth about her genetic history simply because it is the truth (and medically important to her), consider this: She’s going to find out, anyway.The ubiquity of DNA testing is quickly blowing the lid off of family secrets, and the speed of this huge and sweeping change also gives you an out.You don’t actually have to spend years sitting on this knowledge and wrestling with this dilemma.Because she’s going to find out, anyway. So tell her now.AdvertisementPeople should know the truth about their DNA heritage, if at all possible. Sometimes the truth carries tremendous surprises or huge challenges. Oftentimes it answers deep-seated questions people have held but never expressed – about hair or eye color, posture, preferences and personality.Your daughter might be truly shocked by this revelation.She might blame or judge you for your long-ago one-night-stand. Given the genetic history you cite, she might also feel a sense of relief.Regardless of how she greets this news, you are ethically bound to deliver it.Dear Amy: My husband had a vasectomy 15 years ago – after having two children in his previous marriage.I was 18 when we married and assured him (and myself) that I was OK not having a baby of our own and that I was fine with the little family we had.AdvertisementFast-forward a few years. We’ve now been married for six years.I’m now 24, and brought up the topic of wanting a baby to my husband.(It’s weird how you change from 18 to 24).We started going to consultations, found a doctor we loved, and got a credit card just to pay for the procedure.Last night, he admitted to me that he never wanted to have another baby, and that he was just going through the motions to make me happy.He said he does not want to raise another baby in his 40s.AdvertisementI am heartbroken and I just want to move on and stop crying over a child I never had.Your advice?– Childless NOT by ChoiceDear Childless: The choice to have a vasectomy is a pretty solid indicator that your husband had made up his mind about not fathering more children; you obviously discussed this before marrying, and it sounds as if he has done his best to be honest with you.However, you were still a teenager when you and he married, and he – as the far older person – should have anticipated that you would continue to mature and change.This is the most important issue you will face as a couple, and whatever choice you make will affect the rest of your lives in a primary and deeply important way.AdvertisementIt is extremely unlikely that your desire for a child will lessen with time – instead, this yearning will grow.You and your husband should see an experienced couples counselor who could help you to navigate through this extremely thorny issue. You would also benefit from individual counseling.Dear Amy: May I suggest what we do with unsolicited cards? We donate them to a local women’s prison. The ladies are unable to purchase birthday and other cards for their loved ones but still like to remember their folks on special days.Ask AmyDailyNo-nonsense advice for better living delivered to your inbox every morning. For a limited time, sign up for the Ask Amy newsletter and get the book “Ask Amy: Essential Wisdom from America’s Favorite Advice Columnist” for $5.Perhaps other towns have similar programs. Hope this helps!– AlisonDear Alison: I love this idea!AdvertisementMany prisons have extreme restrictions about material that can be donated. Obviously men as well as women would benefit from receiving blank cards (and stamps).Got a question for Amy? Enter it here and we’ll send it to her.Sign up here to receive the Ask Amy newsletter to get advice e-mailed to your inbox every morning, and for a limited time — get the book “Ask Amy: Essential Wisdom from America’s Favorite Advice Columnist” for $5.©2021 Amy Dickinson.

Michael Kopech was back on the mound one week after leaving his previous start for the Chicago White Sox after two-thirds of an inning with right knee discomfort.While Sunday’s outing didn’t go as he hoped, it was pretty astonishing considering what at first glance appeared to be a major setback on June 12.AdvertisementKopech allowed four runs on seven hits in five innings in Sunday’s 4-3 loss to the Houston Astros in front of 37,709 at Minute Maid Park.“I’ve just got to make better pitches and keep us in the game and I didn’t do that,” Kopech said.AdvertisementKopech said the knee, which led to the early exit against the Texas Rangers, was “good” after the game.“I’m going to feel, I think, a little bit different for a little bit,” he said. “But there’s no pain. I was able to compete with it.”Kopech struck out four and walked one in the 75-pitch performance. The Astros did most of their damage with the long ball as J.J. Matijevic hit a solo home run in the fourth and Mauricio Dubón hit a two-run homer an inning later.“Overall, he pitched well and we pushed him as far as we could,” Sox manager Tony La Russa said.[ [Don’t miss] ‘At the end of the day, it’s on us’: As White Sox hover around .500, José Abreu dismisses criticism of Tony La Russa ]The Astros struck first when Kyle Tucker drove in Jose Altuve with a single in the first. Tucker moved to second on a throwing error, giving the Astros runners on second and third with one out. Kopech limited the damage, getting Yuli Gurriel to pop out to second and striking out Matijevic.“There’s positives to take away,” Kopech said. “I was pretty efficient for the most part. I was able to work out of some jams. But overall it was not good enough.”The Sox had a chance in the second, placing runners on second and third with one out. Josh Harrison popped out and Adam Haseley struck out looking.Matijevic’s opposite-field homer in the fourth — his first major-league hit — made it 2-0.AdvertisementLuis Robert drove in a run with a double in the fifth, but Dubón answered with the two-run homer in the bottom of the inning.“It happens. It got out and I’ve got to live with it,” Kopech said of Matijevic’s homer.“The pitch to Dubón was a mistake. He took advantage of it. There were a few other ones in there and they took advantage of mistakes. That’s what a good hitting team does.”An ESPN replay showed Kopech using his right elbow area to knock an object in the dugout after the inning.“The truth is I care a lot about this game and I want to play to the best of my ability and be the best competitor I can be every time I go out there,” he said. “I wasn’t any of those things (Sunday). I had to kind of be challenged with a little bit of adversity and a little bit of an emotional challenge. That got the better of me. It happens, I guess.”Robert singled and scored on a triple by AJ Pollock in the eighth. Pollock scored on Jake Burger’s grounder to second, cutting the deficit to one run.AdvertisementHarrison drew a leadoff walk in the ninth, but Haseley struck out and Danny Mendick and Andrew Vaughn flied out as the rally came up short.The Astros took two of three in the series, but the Sox went 4-2 on the trip.“If you go 4-2 every trip, you’ll have a good year,” La Russa said. “I said at the beginning, it’s how you go after it. If you go after it and they beat you, you tip your cap and get ready for the next one.”

OMAHA, Neb. — Cade Horton struck out a career-high 11 in six innings, Tanner Tredaway continued his torrid postseason with three hits and Oklahoma took control of its bracket in the College World Series with a 6-2 victory over Notre Dame on Sunday night.The Sooners (44-22) need one more win to advance to the best-of-three finals starting Saturday. They’ll play Wednesday against the winner of a Tuesday elimination game between Notre Dame (41-16) and Texas A&M. The Aggies beat Texas 10-2 on Sunday.AdvertisementHorton, who had Tommy John surgery 16 months ago and didn’t pitch until March 29, went at least six innings for a third straight start. The redshirt freshman held the Irish scoreless on three singles in the first five innings.Horton (5-2) gave up David LaManna’s two-run homer to left in the sixth and didn’t come out for the seventh. He threw a season-high 100 pitches.AdvertisementTredaway continued to be a catalyst for the Sooners. He’s batting .513 (20 for 39) in the NCAA Tournament after going 3 for 4 and extending his hitting streak to 16 games. He drove in two runs and scored twice.Notre Dame starter Austin Temple walked three of the eight batters he faced and was pulled with one out in the second. Reliever Aidan Tyrell (5-2) got out of the inning but encountered trouble in the third.Peyton Graham legged out an infield single, stole second and scored on Tredaway’s base hit. Tredaway took second on a passed ball and came home on Wallace Clark’s single.Chicago Tribune SportsWeekdaysA daily sports newsletter delivered to your inbox for your morning commute.The Sooners added three more runs in the sixth to go up 5-0. Two of those scored on Clark’s bunt on the safety squeeze. Tredaway came home from third, and Jimmy Crooks followed him in from first when Carter Putz picked up the ball and threw wildly to Jared Miller covering the bag.Putz had four of the Irish’s seven hits, his last one leading off the eighth and prompting the players in the Notre Dame dugout to grab their “rally bananas.”The Irish have been getting the bananas out during the postseason when they need positive mojo in the late innings. If something good happens, the players take a bite. But Jack Zyska hit into a double play and LaManna flew out to end the eighth.The Irish got their first two batters on base in the ninth, but Clark stepped on the bag at third and threw to first for a double play when Zack Prajzner grounded to him. Trevin Michael struck out Ryan Cole to end the game.The Oklahoma fourth inning ended on a crazy play after Graham had singled to right and John Spikerman rounded second and headed to third.AdvertisementRight fielder Brooks Coetzee threw to third to get Spikerman, but the ball popped out of Jack Brannigan’s glove as he tried to put on the tag. The ball deflected off third-base coach Clay Van Hook and came to rest next to Brannigan. He picked it up and tagged Spikerman, who didn’t realize the ball came out of the glove and had turned to return to the dugout.The game started with some excitement as Oklahoma first baseman Blake Robertson flipped over the Notre Dame dugout rail while catching Cole’s pop foul on the first pitch of the game. Robertson raised his glove to show umpires he hung on to the ball.

HOUSTON — Houston Astros mascot Orbit walked around foul territory with a small disco ball hanging from a string. The mascot would stop and encourage the person close to the ball to dance.Orbit neared the left-field foul line, where the Chicago White Sox were stretching Friday. José Abreu was the closest player. Abreu obliged with some dance moves before returning to his stretching.AdvertisementThe next day, Orbit held a sign challenging any Sox player to a paper airplane contest before eventually competing with someone associated with the Astros.Abreu laughed when the topic came up before Sunday’s game.Advertisement“I’m too old to be playing with all that stuff, especially because I don’t know what he was planning to do,” Abreu said through an interpreter.It was a light moment on a winning trip for the Sox, who wrapped up a three-game series Sunday night at Minute Maid Park.[ [Don’t miss] Column: Tony La Russa versus Dusty Baker is a rivalry that never grows old as the managers square off again ]Abreu, 35, acknowledged his teammates — veterans and younger players — for their versatility while the Sox have juggled injuries.“They are giving us their best effort and that’s something you really have to recognize and that has a lot of value,” Abreu said. “That shows the character that they have and the character of this team. At the same time, we have to recognize all the good jobs the coaching staff and training staff have been doing with all of us, trying to overcome all the situations and trying to keep us in good health.”A key contributor is scheduled to return Monday in shortstop Tim Anderson. He has been on the injured list retroactive to May 30 with a strained right groin.“We’re a different team when he plays,” said Sox manager Tony La Russa, who also noted Danny Mendick’s strong play at the position while Anderson has been out. “We exchanged texts the last two days and (Sunday) morning, and he said he’s ready to go. “He’s leading off (Monday against the Toronto Blue Jays at Guaranteed Rate Field) and we’ll be better because he’s there.”Anderson is a source of instant offense, slashing .356/.393/.503 in 40 games.AdvertisementWhite Sox shortstop Tim Anderson walks to the dugout during a game against the Boston Red Sox at Guaranteed Rate Field on May 25, 2022. (Chris Sweda / Chicago Tribune)He’ll rejoin a lineup that has watched Abreu heat up in the past month. Entering Sunday, the first baseman had slashed .345/.463/.600 with 10 doubles, six home runs and 20 RBIs in his previous 29 games, raising his average from .197 to .267. Abreu leads the Sox in homers (nine) and RBIs (32).“You know that you won’t be able to produce every time,” Abreu said. “But you have to be ready for when those times come to you and you have to take advantage of those times.”The Sox still are looking to put it all together. They have hovered around .500, one game under entering Sunday night.Abreu said he doesn’t pay attention to outside criticism of La Russa.“It’s easy to blame the manager when things aren’t going right, but at the end of the day, it’s on us,” Abreu said. “We are the ones who are performing on the field. The responsibility has to be on us. “It’s easy to say whatever you want to say, or the critics will say whatever about the manager. But they are not here. They are not in the clubhouse. They don’t know how united or how good we are. Everybody knows we’ve been dealing with a lot of injuries. People don’t know how you have to overcome those situations and being able to play every day. Advertisement“In order for them to blame Tony, that’s easy. But they don’t know how good we are in the clubhouse.”Abreu said the players support La Russa “because we all know at the end of the day it’s our responsibility to perform the way we can perform on the field. It’s not his responsibility.“I can tell you as a person, as a leader, he’s all that you can ask for in a manager.”[ [Don’t miss] Liam Hendriks is hoping for a quick return to the White Sox: ‘They say 3 weeks, I’m targeting July 1’ ]Before Sunday’s game, the Sox recalled outfielder Adam Haseley from Triple-A Charlotte and placed reliever Matt Foster on the bereavement list.Haseley, acquired in a March 29 trade with the Philadelphia Phillies, has a .280/.344/.482 slash line with 11 doubles, two triples, eight home runs and 38 RBIs in 51 games with Charlotte. He played in five games for the Sox from April 20-24, going 2-for-10 with two walks.In his last 17 games with the Knights, Haseley is batting .382 with six doubles, five home runs, 23 RBIs, 17 runs, six stolen bases and a .721 slugging percentage.Advertisement“Anytime you get an opportunity like this, you obviously take advantage of it and give it everything you’ve got,” Haseley said before Sunday’s game. “I’m grateful to have been performing well the last few weeks and obviously I hope to continue doing it here. Not trying to change anything, just be myself and see what happens, help the team win.”

BROOKLINE, Mass. — Englishman Matt Fitzpatrick won the U.S. Open, winning his first professional major on the same course where he took the U.S. Amateur title nine years earlier.Fitzpatrick shot a 2-under 68 at The Country Club to finish the tournament at 6-under 274 and beat Will Zalatoris and Scottie Scheffler by one.AdvertisementLeading by one shot, Fitzpatrick hooked his drive on No. 18 into a bunker to the left of the fairway. But he hit the middle of the green and two-putted from 18 feet for par. Zalatoris had a 14-foot birdie putt to tie but missed it by a fraction.This marked the second straight runner-up finish at a major for Zalatoris, who lost to Justin Thomas in a playoff last month at the PGA Championship. It was Zalatoris’ sixth top-10 finish in seven majors since he made his major debut at Winged Foot in the 2020 U.S. Open.AdvertisementFitzpatrick hit 17 greens in regulation. He becomes the first Englishman to win the U.S. Open since Justin Rose at Merion in 2013, the same year Fitzpatrick won the U.S. Amateur at The Country Club.He also joins Jack Nicklaus as the only player to win the U.S. Open and Amateur on the same course. Nicklaus won at Pebble Beach in 1961 and 1972.Fitzpatrick, 27, enrolled at Northwestern in September 2013 and played the fall season for the Wildcats. He left school after one quarter to focus on his golf career and turned pro after the 2014 U.S. Open.

INDIANAPOLIS — NaLyssa Smith scored a career-high 26 points — including a go-ahead three-point play in the closing seconds — to help the Indiana Fever erase a 15-point second-half deficit and beat the Chicago Sky 89-87 on Sunday.Smith was fouled as she hit a turnaround jumper from the left block and made the free throw to give the Fever an 88-87 lead with 39 seconds left.AdvertisementThe Sky missed two shots on the other end before Victoria Vivians was fouled with 7.8 seconds remaining. She made 1 of 2 free throws to give the Fever a two-point lead.After the Sky called a timeout, Courtney Vandersloot missed a short baseline jumper and the Fever held on.AdvertisementKelsey Mitchell added 13 points and nine assists for Indiana (5-13). Emma Cannon — who came in with 14 points all season — scored 11 points, and Lexie Hull finished with a career-best 10. Smith, the No. 2 selection in this year’s draft, was 11 of 17 shooting and had 11 rebounds.Kahleah Copper made 8 of 13 from the field, 4 of 6 from 3-point range and 8 of 10 from the free-throw line to finish with a career-high 28 points for the Sky (10-5). Vandersloot added 13 points and seven assists, and Emma Meesseman had 12 points, eight rebounds, four assists and three blocks.The Sky’s Candace Parker, who averages 12.4 points, 7.9 rebounds and 4.5 assists this season, missed her second consecutive game because of a knee injury.Copper converted a three-point play in the closing seconds of the first half and made two free throws to open the third quarter to cap a 21-3 run and give the Sky a 15-point lead — their biggest of the game.Smith scored six points and Mitchell the other four in a 10-0 run over the next two minutes, and Danielle Robinson hit two free throws to give the Fever a 57-56 lead with 4:20 left in the third.